Jun's Library

Everyone knows the pre-requisite to be promoted, which is to put effort, be hardworking, and delivering results. Too often, our effort to deliver results set by superiors are seen as the ability to support the leader. This makes us stuck in our supportive role. Sometimes our action might be too subtle to our leaders and makes us missed our chances to be promoted. Usually we will turn to mentors for help, but the guidance provided is not the key for us to stand out. We need somebody to recognize us, and pulls us up. This person is a Sponsor. Mentor is a person that provides guidance and help to a junior. Mentor-ship is usually a one way giving process. A mentee does not necessary need to perform well to get help from mentors, and the guidance and advice is often considered as a gift. Comparing to mentor-ship, a good sponsorship will create a win-win situation, where the sponsor will get a person that delivers the support the sponsor need, while the protégée will receive the co...

The Marshmallow test, written by Walter Mischel, discussed about nuturing self-control that leads to other positive traits which are beneficial to our day to day encounters. The idea of Marshmallow test is portrayed by the video below - The waiting game by Sesame Street, where a group of children is presented with their favourite snack, if they are able to resist the temptation to indulge immediately and wait for the researcher to come back, they will be rewarded with another piece of snack. The result of the marshmallow test has become an indicator for their future life. For those who are able to wait for their reward, lives a more successful life, better social and cognitive functioning, a healthier lifestyle and greater sense of self-worth compare to those who can't wait.  There are a few ideas that Walter introduce in his book, which I find useful. 1. The brain is controlled by a Hot and Cool system. Activation of the cool system allow us to make better ...